Is Your Man Clueless?

Greetings friend!

I’ve been having a lot of coaching conversations with my clients about how willing they are to take responsibility for communicating their needs and wants to their partner.

To experience less guilt, frustration, impatience, and resentment, you have to be willing to take full responsibility for communicating and asking for what you need and want.

This is my man, Greg. And sometimes he is clueless.
Download the ‘Is Your Man Clueless Communication Guide’ in the link below.

Not hoping he gets it.

Not assuming he must know you’re not satisfied.

Surely, he must know!

Surely, he does not.

He’s clueless.

My husband says he views most talk as ‘jibba jabba.’

When I need or want something from him for real, he needs me to tell him how important it is to me.

Otherwise, he may think it is ‘jibba jabba.’

Greg says I have a tendency to say something that is bothering me in such a casual and nonchalant tone that he has no clue the gravity of the situation.

He calls this ‘the dead fish.’ (we’ve been together so long, sometimes he catches it in the moment and says, ‘did you just dead fish me?!’ – hee hee, yes I did!)

Most men are clueless. Not because they don’t care but because you haven’t communicated the real deal.

You haven’t asked for what you want in specific terms.

I have a friend who has been in and out of marriage counseling for over two years. Her man participates but he is clueless.

He is clueless because he has no idea that when their youngest son turns 13 (which is several years away), she plans on filing for divorce.

He thinks he’s just working on the relationship because she wants to. He has no idea how unhappy she is because she has never said, ‘I am so unhappy with xyz that I plan on filing for divorce in 3 years.’

That would get his attention. He loves her.

Whether you are at the brink or want your man to be more involved in the running of the household, don’t let your man be clueless.

You are responsible for communicating your own needs and unless you are an automaton, you will need to elicit support from others, including your man.

To help your man not be clueless, feel heard, and get a response, I created a ‘Is Your Man Clueless Communication Guide’ for my private Freedom from Chronic Stress Program clients.